Decide what you want to be but deliver your self with integrity:

In any given moment you have 100% control on your approach to life, on how you react to people and situations, and the type of person you want to be.

Even if until now you were the total opposite of who you wished to be or who you would take pride to be  you need to understand that you and only you have the power to change your reality a 180 degree change.

Try this take a piece of paper and a pen and write what you are right know and what you want to change in your personality, let's say this month you are focusing on  taking life easy and joyfully, or from now on I arrive to every meeting 10 min early.

Please don't make your life difficult by trying to change everything at once, make up to 3 changes in a month and genuinely stick to them, and then when you feel confident add more changes.Or even better make a Column with the trade you want to change, and the other Column write the action  that by doing that you have moved away from that trade.

The key ingredient for this to work is a strong will, so if you have problem in sticking to things you might as well make it priority number one on your list.

After about 6 months that you kept the changes you can start marketing yourself as a person with those new futures, even in a job interview (for in any job you can acquire skills but not self discipline or integrity) but it's only good if the check won't bounce.

Keep track of the changes you made, to see that you didn't forget any commitment.

Ask once in a while from people around you close and random how they view you as a person,  it's an excellent way to find out in an objective way that you are genuinely making the changes. Ask them what they think you need to do to meet your commitments, and what else you should alter in your personality.

Try to surround yourself with positive people that really care for and will be happy when you succeed.

One more thing, it is very important that in the beginning of the process you won't share your decision for change for even positive people might discourage you and if you don't believe me just notice that when somebody wants to loose weight and says that to people in a party, suddenly everyone will try to convince the person to postpone his decision to after the party, and will try to shave cake in  his face.

But let's take the same person only decided to keep his decision to himself, and says at the party that he just not hungry, trust me nobody will try to make him eat.

Everyone saw this happen, and it's human nature.

So please at the beginning keep to your self and if you really commit to it you will see positive changes in your personality and a raise in your self esteem.